He Wanted Me to Get a BBL

Back in 2011, I was dating this guy who was yet, another foolish decision on my end. We had been dating for about a year at this point, and I remember him propositioning me with the notion to get BBL surgery (Brazilian Butt Lift).

My first thought and response was, “No."

It’s interesting how things happen because, as time went on, and by time, I do not mean weeks, months, or years…I mean, days; for days he kept mentioning it. He would drop little “foolish nuggets” about how “it would look nice on me.” He even mentioned how some lady he knew, who was a manager of his, had one and it looked nice on her. Smh (Shaking my head).

What I’m not going to delve into is the spirit of lust, control, and perversion that was very strong within him but, that was definitely one of his go-to comments, among other ones. One day, while I was at work, I remember really contemplating the thought of getting a BBL! It shocks me today and even, after the fact because I thought to myself, “Did I really not value myself that much?”

I remember that same day, in reference to getting a BBL, I told him, “I like myself. I’m happy with who I am and I’m not changing that.” I said, “When you met me, I did not have BBL so, why should I get one now? If you want that, you need to find someone with one of those.” I remember, I even mentioned how Tiny, from the R&B group X-scape, got one and her long-time boyfriend/husband, T.I. still cheated on her.

Sidenote: Sin has an insatiable appetite. Getting a BBL, or anything else, to please someone, will not keep them from cheating, lying, stealing, etc., if they have not been delivered from that "thing" that has them bound.

Although he was very controlling, there were times when I became very bold about what I said. This was one of those times. His response was, “I wasn’t going to say anything else about it.”

Why did I share this?

There are so many women that make detrimental decisions, based on what a man wants, says, or thinks. And the hard truth is, this man neither loves nor cares about her. He is trying to fulfill his own selfish needs. There are so many women who do not know their value and therefore, they will make decisions based on what they believe their worth and value is.

I know this sounds cliché but, the Lord made you a certain way for a reason. Everything about you; your personality, the way you look, the way you sound, how tall you are, the color of your hair, the color of your eyes…it sets you apart from the next person. Some people so badly want to be someone else. But that’s because you don’t know how valuable…priceless…and precious you are.

Either you were not told that you are valuable, or you were told that you are not valuable. Either way…YOU WERE TOLD A LIE. This lie could have come from a parent, a sibling, a teacher, a peer, a child, and an adult. It could have even come from you. But the main culprit behind a lie, comes from one place, and one place only. From the enemy. The devil himself. Lucifer. Satan.

There is a scripture in John 8:44 that says, “The devil is your father. You are from him. You want to do the sinful things your father, the devil, wants you to do. He has been a killer from the beginning. The devil has nothing to do with the truth. There is no truth in him. It is expected of the devil to lie, for he is a liar and the father of lies.” NLT

A lot of what we see on social media are lies. I know not everyone lies but, not everyone shares the lows of their life…only the highs. Only what looks desirable and good. But a lot of people are living a lie.

Why do people tell lies?

To get you to believe something other than the truth!

How do you counter a lie?

By stating…declaring the TRUTH!

YOU are valuable! According to the Strong's Concordance, the definition for valuable is:

brightness, clear, costly, excellent, fat, honorable women, PRECIOUS, reputation.

Here are some quick scripture references and tools to look up to meditate on and declare over your life:

• Genesis 1:27 - We are created in God's image, reflecting inherent worth.

• Psalm 139:14 - We are fearfully and wonderfully made, emphasizing our unique value.

• Matthew 10:31 - We are worth more than many sparrows, highlighting God's care for us.

• 1 Peter 2:9 - We are a chosen people, royal priests, signifying our special status.

• Romans 5:8 - Christ died for us while we were still sinners, showing our immense worth to God.

• Ephesians 2:10 - We are God's handiwork, created for good works, affirming our purpose and value.

I have to add one of my personal favorites; The one which the foundation for this website lies upon:

Matthew 13: 45-46

 ⁴⁵Again, the kingdom of heaven is like unto a merchant man, seeking goodly pearls:

⁴⁶ Who, when he had found one pearl of great price, went and sold all that he had, and bought it.

“Goodly” pearls translates into: beautiful, handsome, excellent, eminent, choice, surpassing, precious, useful, admirable, suitable, commendable.

YOU ARE THE PEARL OF GREAT PRICE!

Only make the changes, for the good, that the Lord wants you to make.